Crazy Ex

[TedA 3]

Without going into too much detail-- I have this crazy ex wife who I do have a kid with but everytime I drop my kid off or pick her up or she calls me or texts me there is a good chance my ex will say these nasty nasty things to me. So I pretty much told my ex recently that if she wants to me to watch our kid she needs to drop her off at my ex wife's mother's house and i will pick her up/drop her off there.

This may be too much detail but these things are really nasty-- I lost both my parents a couple years ago and she says things like you never loved your mom or your dad. Your a bad father, you don't love your kid, your a bad christian, etc. Our daughter is disabled and she says it is my fault she is disabled, etc.

I am actually considering getting a PFA (protection from abuse) against my ex because of this stuff. I'm about 100% sure if I get one against her and have it setup so we drop the kid off or pick her up someplace like a police station or my ex mother in law house my ex will also get a PFA against me, because that is what she did to the guy before me.

So, finally, after all that over share and such-- if I do get a PFA against my ex and she gets one against me-- will that come up and interfere with my k1 visa process with my new fiance? I have zero criminal charges in my background and in fact have called the police on my ex numerous times due to her crazy behavior but will this show up?

[Unshakable Faith 493]

I'm not sure what it's like in your state...

I'm a social worker in NC and I believe, at least here, that you can't get a protection order unless there are threats of harm or there is physical abuse.

My suggestion is to call your local police department and ask if they have a safe-exchange program or know anyone in the county that does.

If you have anything in your record and it shows up, that's never a good thing. Especially if it's a protective order!

[TBoneTX 43,020]

Thread is moved from the K-1 Process forum to the Off Topic forum.

[Teddy B 17,251]

The order of protection alone won't get you in trouble with USCIS, but if she follows that order up with abuse allegations and you get charged and convicted for domestic abuse, that will have an affect on your chances to bring your fiance here.

My opinion would be to lay low and put up with the bs until you get your fiance here.

Edited May 5, 2016 by Teddy B

[Teddy B 17,251]

The order of protection alone won't get you in trouble with USCIS, but if she follows that order up with abuse allegations and you get charged and convicted for domestic abuse, that will have an affect on your chances to bring your fiance here.

My opinion would be to lay low and put up with the bs until you get your fiance here.

Get married and have your fiance's/wife AOS approved as well before tangling with the ex.