Frustrated!

[Dusty B Shah 0]

Hi, I'm new here, my petition was just mailed out today, now the long wait. Me & my fiancé have been together for 2 yrs now, but I'm a lot older than him, by 18 yrs, everything I've read says it won't be an issue, has anyone had this problem when it came time for the approval of the petition? I'm so worried it'll be denied because of our age difference. Thanks

[Pitaya 2,576]

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[RoJ10 18]

I met someone same case like yours and she was accepted. It will depend on the evidence you submitted and your interview. Just be confident and show how truthful and honest you are. Just try to be ready of bringing extra evidence "like pictures and so on" whatever you have during the interview that you have not submitted.

[A'n'L 735]

You shouldn't worry about the age difference in terms of getting the petition approved. USCIS are only concerned with the formal requirements.

When it comes time for the visa application and interview at the embassy, that could be more challenging for your country. I understand that the female being older than the man is not common in Pakistani culture? I will not say for sure, why don't you check the regional forum for experiences? I assume you have a lot of relationship evidence which will be helpful?

Good luck :-)

[Dusty B Shah 0]

Thanks so much! I'm just feeling discouraged right now, and not sure what to expect, it's been a long 2 yrs and we just recently met in March, I have all the proof the needed. Fingers crossed! ?

[carolynhotstuff 252]

Thanks so much! I'm just feeling discouraged right now, and not sure what to expect, it's been a long 2 yrs and we just recently met in March, I have all the proof the needed. Fingers crossed! ?

I am a way more than 18 years older than my husband. The interview at the embassy may be a little rough. He may be interviewed by more than one person. USCIS doesn't care about age so if you have provided the proper evidence they should approve the I-130 without problems. It's the interview in Islamabad that is more important. Study visa journey for others going through that embassy and their experiences. He should know as much about you as possible including info about your former marriages, kids and close family members. They may even ask about your job and car you drive.

[carolynhotstuff 252]

I am sorry you said you filed a K-1 not a marriage I-130 my mistake. Still they will most likely ask him very detailed questions and it is up to him to make them believe that he loves you despite the age difference.

[JFH 12,189]

Are you still of childbearing age? If you are of an age where becoming pregnant is unlikely or impossible then this could be a cause for concern with the CO at interview if your husband is a lot younger and doesn't yet have children. He will likely be asked how he feels about spending the rest of his life without knowing fatherhood.

This is a bigger issue in some cultures than in others. Many couples here in the UK are childless by choice. That is unheard of in some places.

Edited May 4, 2016 by JFH

[Dusty B Shah 0]

I do have 2 kids, and no I can't have anymore, my fiancé was aware of this after we met, he has talked to both of my kids and considers them his own. We have talked about adoption though.

[Adil & Jeanne 296]

i am a lot older than Adil and it took us 6 years

Get ready to prove everything and go thru some hoops the others don't have to do

All say NVC will accept copies of marriage certificate but they wanted our original (everything original)

not trying at all to discourage you as you can make it

I did

It really is against our Consititution to discriminate for age and i pointed out that Lasrry King is 26 older than his wife

i wish you had married at the meeting / you may have to do this in future and go the CR1

send me a note if you need anything and i will tell personal age difference

[Evetorres28 49]

Hola, soy nuevo aquí, mi petición fue simplemente envía por correo a cabo hoy en día, ya la larga espera. Yo y mi novia hemos estado juntos durante 2 años ahora, pero yo soy mucho mayor que él, a los 18 años, todo lo que he leído dice que no será un problema, ¿Alguien ha tenido este problema cuando llegó el momento de la aprobación de la petición? Estoy muy preocupada que va a ser negada debido a la diferencia de edad. Gracias

dont worry, the age difference does not affect anything...

[abhi_meli 150]

I do have 2 kids, and no I can't have anymore, my fiancé was aware of this after we met, he has talked to both of my kids and considers them his own. We have talked about adoption though.

I truly hope you have front loaded the i-129 f with solid proof of your relationship as it is always good to front load the petition with as much proof as you can because,pretty much,the IO decides the outcome of the interview before the beneficiary is ever interviewed.It's always hope for the best but the most important is prepare for the worst. Definitely your case has some red flags as it is not common in Pakistan,for a man to marry a woman,18 years older.You will see people here telling you to not worry but as a matter of fact you do need to worry and start preparing your fiance and yourself for the Interview because it is gonna be very tough.Gather additional proof of relationship and go through the cases of other members who were in similar situation.All the best.

[FarrahIdir 46]

I'm 12 years older and they gave us a hard time. Been with him 4 years married one. I had all our proof front loaded. Now they want more bonifide proofs that it's a real marriage. So make sure you have good evidence. I added him to car insurance, paypal debit card etc etc. Hopefully this and affidavits will work

We are in AP and need to turn these in to find out if he is approved or denied.

[LionessDeon 2,060]

When it comes to a large age difference...it truly depends on the culture of the country the beneficiary is from. Large age differences in the Phillipines where the man is older than the woman is very common and no one seems to bat an eye. Its culturally accepted.

Pakistan....where the woman is older than the man...no longer of child bearing age is a concern and not the cultural norm. The beneficiary not able to have biological children of his own is a concern. You cannot think of it as what is acceptable in the USA. You must think of it in middle eastern terms. I am saying this so you can be prepared to deal with it at the embassy stage and have a better chance of approval. Not being prepared...going into it with rose colored glasses...will not help you. So, with that do some research. There have been many many threads started on this topic. Use the search tool and read up! Prepare strong relationship evidence. I'm a strong believer in looking ahead, researching all possibilites and options, and being prepared for every possible outcome.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/572206-age-difference-of-22years-in-fiance-visa/

It really doesn't matter so much how you and your fiance feel about the age difference as much as you must convince the CO that your relationship is real and lasting.

Edited May 4, 2016 by LionessDeon

[JessDak 27]

I had a worry too with mine since the Bahamas is a pretty homophobic place, I thought we would have trouble as a same sex couple. But it was very easy and very straight forward it took about 10 minutes and he told me on the spot that I would be approved as soon as he received my medical results. I just kept telling myself that all relationships look different and these officers have to know that by now and that really helped me to stay calm and not fumble about like an idiot . If they only accepted the average (opposite gender, same race, similar age, etc) couples then I think there would be outrage!

My advice would just be like RoJ10 said, be confident and truthful and the worst that should happen is they might ask for more evidence. But as long as the relationship is true and you guys really do love each other, it should be simple! Good luck!!