Leaving 11 y/o son behind in Thailand

[thaigirlwatcher 0]

My fiancee plans to have her 11 y/o son live with relatives in Thailand when she comes here on a fiancee visa. We plan to get married, get a green card for her and have her live in the US permanently. Will this be a problem at her fiancee visa interview in Thailand?

[baron555 934]

No

[almost_umrican 53]

My fiancee plans to have her 11 y/o son live with relatives in Thailand when she comes here on a fiancee visa. We plan to get married, get a green card for her and have her live in the US permanently. Will this be a problem at her fiancee visa interview in Thailand?

There is no absolute answer to this question. they scrutinize you more if one is from a high fraud country.i hope you get through.good luck.

[Boiler 43,433]

Why?

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

It will seem strange to leave a child behind. Is this a permanent solution ? Be prepared for a lot of questions.

[baron555 934]

It will seem strange to leave a child behind. Is this a permanent solution ? Be prepared for a lot of questions.

It doesn't. Many do this as the immigrant wants to establish life in the new US culture / system. Many then later bring the children over.

[Boiler 43,433]

Never met anybody who did not bring their children.

[baron555 934]

Never met anybody who did not bring their children.

Read around. Many leave the K-2 children with family and then have them To Join within a year of the K-1's visa issuance date.

Many have older children who finish some schooling and then are petitioned by the petitioner via the I-130 form or by the parent once they are naturalized.

Happens all the time. Not a red flag.

[Boiler 43,433]

I said I had never met anyone who had left children behind.

[NikLR 13,220]

It would be silly to file for permanent residence for him afterwards when he can follow to join within a year.

But unless the child really doesn't want to move to the USA and wants to stay with a father for example, it is odd to not bring him along as well eventually.

The OP does not mention if they have plans on ever bringing the child or not.

As for the original question, they may ask about it.

[Alaska2012 462]

May I ask why the kid doesn't move with the mother? Why wait?

[tyler007 26]

This is our situation as well. The birth father and his family simply aren't ready to let both of the children go at this point so she will just bring the youngest for now although the door is always open in the future for the elder child. She will bring the youngest with her.

[aaron2020 11,651]

Sometime people leave children behind because the other biological parent does not want their child to move to the US. When one parent immigrated to the US, a child will be separated from one parent of the other parent does not immigrate regardless whether the child immigrate or not.

In many cultures, it's acceptable to leave your children behind under the care of relatives when the new immigrant parents goes to America to establish themselves before bringing the children over.

Europeans immigrating to the US before the 1950s and 1960s did the same thing.

We in the modern western world simply have forgotten things.

Leaving a child behind under the care of loving relatives and bringing them later does not mean the parents do not love their children or are indifferent to the pain of separation.

Edited November 12, 2015 by aaron2020

[MADDEN 40]

My 14 year old son has decided to stay in Australia with his grandmother (my mother) I had no problems at my interview, they asked who would be looking after him and if he would be following in the coming year.

To leave a child behind is one of the hardest decisions a parent has to make and my heat goes out to anyone in this situation. I have been fortunate enough that my mother is able to care for him and ive had a lawyer draw up shared parental responsibility documents for us both. When my son told me his decision to want to stay in Australia my world collapsed, here I was thinking we would all be starting a new adventure in the US with my fiancé so to not have him join us is a horrible feeling of guilt. On a positive tho my child is able to stay in a loving home environment and he has an amazing network of supportive friends. He will be able to come to the US when he has school holidays to visit and we will organise regular Skype chats to keep in contact.

Leaving a child behind for whatever the reasons may be is not something any parent takes lightly, its a huge decision and no parent should be judge on it.

[NikLR 13,220]

We used to have a support group on VJ for those of us that moved and our children stayed behind. The thread has fallen to the wayside.

Edited November 12, 2015 by NLR