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Good day to all. I am a holder of a green card good for 10 years. I am a spouse of a US citizen. I just arrived with my two yr old son last April. So we are about 6 months in the US now. Recently i discovered my US citizen husband is gay. And hes been on dating sites and caught him lying several times. I confronted him about it but of course he denied even with overwhelming evidence. My questions:

1. What are my options right now? I dont have work and has a toddler with me. He seemed close to sorting things out. And he doesnt give any financial support though he buys everything i ask of him but lately after knowing i discovered his secret it is hard asking him for something.

2. What is the effect on my status later if i apply for citizenship if i go to another state and get help from my relatives? It is a bonafide marriage. We are married for 9 years but it was only last april that we were able to come here in the US.

Im at a loss right now and feeling helpless on the situation too. Thanks in advance for all your helpful comments.

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1) You can decided what his situation means to your marriage and take appropriate action. Divorce, stay, or whatever you think is best for you and your son. If you divorce, he has obligations to support his son and possibly even you, depending on state the divorce is filed, length of marriage, etc.

2) No impact on your citizenship path except you will have to wait 5 years from receipt of your GC if you decided to divorce, instead of 3 years to apply.

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What is it does he want? If he truly is gay, that seems counter to have a new wife and step child (to US) and/or carried on for 9 yrs?

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1) You can decided what his situation means to your marriage and take appropriate action. Divorce, stay, or whatever you think is best for you and your son. If you divorce, he has obligations to support his son and possibly even you, depending on state the divorce is filed, length of marriage, etc.

2) No impact on your citizenship path except you will have to wait 5 years from receipt of your GC if you decided to divorce, instead of 3 years to apply.

Thank you so much for the prompt reply and information. The thing is i cant file for divorce right now since it is costly and i am unemployed as of the moment. But it so hard i cant stand all the lies and deception surrounding my marriage right now.

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You need a serious sit-down discussion with him where you're both honest with each other. Then you can figure out what to do next.

You can file for citizenship after you've been in the U.S. 3 years if you're still married to him; if you divorce you must wait until you've been here 5 years before you can file for citizenship.

"Wherever you go, you take yourself with you." --Neil Gaiman

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You need a serious sit-down discussion with him where you're both honest with each other. Then you can figure out what to do next.

You can file for citizenship after you've been in the U.S. 3 years if you're still married to him; if you divorce you must wait until you've been here 5 years before you can file for citizenship.

Thank you so much for your kindness and patience in answering someone unknown to you like me whose at a loss. Visa journey members are truly blessed to have people around like you. More power!

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Well if true you were duped eh

Ask yourself :

Do you want to move on if you verified & you are correct.

Can you compete in a situation of such, each person in life knows what they want.

Are you willing to be a cover-mate & where is love in all this.

Mostly do you want to raise your kid in this situation, they eventually grow to know everything in the home

Don't think about citizenship right now, focus on getting a job & move on if that's your choice

If you are separated or divorce from him you will start naturalization process in 5 yrs & right now

you and the kid is okay immigration-wise

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I dated a girl from the Philippines here in the US once with almost your exact same story. She found gay porn in the history of her husbands computer. She got divorced immediately, worked in manufacturing for awhile while going to school to get nursing or CNA degree and got married again a couple years ago. It's not the end of the world, I'm sure if he is that closeted he will help you out in any way. Good luck.

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Thank you so much for the prompt reply and information. The thing is i cant file for divorce right now since it is costly and i am unemployed as of the moment. But it so hard i cant stand all the lies and deception surrounding my marriage right now.

In Texas divorce, filing a divorce petition is free if you submit a pauper's oath. Do you have something similar in your state?

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