Fiancee I-29f K-1 Need help with abusive immigrant

[Thisplacerules 0]

God help me, Ive gone through 2 yrs of hell. He refuses to help with bills. Keeps all his bank account private. He is cold, allusive, abusive with words, has fits of rage or passive aggressiveness destroying everything in his path and only things he knows I value. He refuses to keep a steady job, help around the house in anyway, expects me to wait on treats me like a servant, sleeps alone often yet wants sex, like he is a price, uses forceful sex, has got me in almost 20,000. in debt including back taxes from his business I helped him set up. He hates my cooking so I stopped trying tp please him, he spends most his time on games and on his new iphphone or apple computer while he destroyed mine in anger. All on charge or credit. He tells me in anger he will leave all the bills to me and go home. He does what he wants when he wants and if I confront him, he goes off like a firecracker. I have nothing left. He refuses to share me with his friends and family or to post he is married publicly anywhere. I need serious help and after all the verbal abuse I have completely fallen out of love with him. We are awaiting the meeting to remove his conditions. Im so mad at being used for him to just get here I dont want him to stay under these conditions, but can find no help online for abused sponsers, only for the immigrant. Someone help me, my Hell grows every day. All the things I harassed him over for a year, he now is telling me he has issues with like having kids, sharing bank accounts, sending money home instead of contributing here. I pay for the roof over his head and all food and utilities. He even drives my car. He just keeps getting himself more and more in debt and I want out from under his evil plans to hurt me. He even will have nothing to do with my family or friends. Where can I go to get help?

Edited May 26, 2015 by Thisplacerules

[Wooderz 314]

First of all, so sorry. No one deserves that. The first thing is to just leave the house. Get yourself to a safe place with friends or family or a shelter if you need to. Second, get a divorce attorney.

Edited May 26, 2015 by Wooderz

[Boiler 43,363]

Agree Divorce.

[Ning 619]

God help me, Ive gone through 2 yrs of hell. He refuses to help with bills. Keeps all his bank account private. He is cold, allusive, abusive with words, has fits of rage or passive aggressiveness destroying everything in his path and only things he knows I value. He refuses to keep a steady job, help around the house in anyway, expects me to wait on treats me like a servant, sleeps alone often yet wants sex, like he is a price, uses forceful sex, has got me in almost 20,000. in debt including back taxes from his business I helped him set up. He hates my cooking so I stopped trying tp please him, he spends most his time on games and on his new iphphone or apple computer while he destroyed mine in anger. All on charge or credit. He tells me in anger he will leave all the bills to me and go home. He does what he wants when he wants and if I confront him, he goes off like a firecracker. I have nothing left. He refuses to share me with his friends and family or to post he is married publicly anywhere. I need serious help and after all the verbal abuse I have completely fallen out of love with him. We are awaiting the meeting to remove his conditions. Im so mad at being used for him to just get here I dont want him to stay under these conditions, but can find no help online for abused sponsers, only for the immigrant. Someone help me, my Hell grows every day. All the things I harassed him over for a year, he now is telling me he has issues with like having kids, sharing bank accounts, sending money home instead of contributing here. I pay for the roof over his head and all food and utilities. He even drives my car. He just keeps getting himself more and more in debt and I want out from under his evil plans to hurt me. He even will have nothing to do with my family or friends. Where can I go to get help?

Help? Two years of this? You began this & you will have to end it. I am so sorry to hear about what this guy has done but only you can end this disaster so get on with it today. .

Where does he get money? Cell phones? Cars? Housing? Food? In fact support in general?

Contact USCIS asap.

Shut off the cash.

Seek restraining order.

Boiler is right

Divorce.

[yuna628 9,526]

God help me, Ive gone through 2 yrs of hell. He refuses to help with bills. Keeps all his bank account private. He is cold, allusive, abusive with words, has fits of rage or passive aggressiveness destroying everything in his path and only things he knows I value. He refuses to keep a steady job, help around the house in anyway, expects me to wait on treats me like a servant, sleeps alone often yet wants sex, like he is a price, uses forceful sex, has got me in almost 20,000. in debt including back taxes from his business I helped him set up. He hates my cooking so I stopped trying tp please him, he spends most his time on games and on his new iphphone or apple computer while he destroyed mine in anger. All on charge or credit. He tells me in anger he will leave all the bills to me and go home. He does what he wants when he wants and if I confront him, he goes off like a firecracker. I have nothing left. He refuses to share me with his friends and family or to post he is married publicly anywhere. I need serious help and after all the verbal abuse I have completely fallen out of love with him. We are awaiting the meeting to remove his conditions. Im so mad at being used for him to just get here I dont want him to stay under these conditions, but can find no help online for abused sponsers, only for the immigrant. Someone help me, my Hell grows every day. All the things I harassed him over for a year, he now is telling me he has issues with like having kids, sharing bank accounts, sending money home instead of contributing here. I pay for the roof over his head and all food and utilities. He even drives my car. He just keeps getting himself more and more in debt and I want out from under his evil plans to hurt me. He even will have nothing to do with my family or friends. Where can I go to get help?

There are many domestic abuse shelters and support systems in place for women in your state

Here's a few:

http://www.twsh.org/

http://www.mocadsv.org/Default.aspx

http://www.lsmo.org/library-item/missouri-domestic-violence-resources

https://www.myharmonyhouse.org/

Get yourself away from the situation immediately, then find yourself an attorney. The shelter may be able to provide you resources to one or advice.

Edited May 26, 2015 by yuna628

[TBoneTX 42,991]

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