nightmare k1 marriage

[Needhelp164 11]

I completed the K1 process went to the foreign consulate with my k1 fiancée. She got the visa. I was very happy. Two weeks before she moved to the USA, she told me she had been raped two years ago and ended up having a kid. She suffers from a medical disorder where she loses concioussness, I have seen it. I was in a state of shock, but since I was in love and I guess not seeing straight from shock. I cried and decided to make it work. She moved to the USA and we got married in Vegas.

Keep in mind that while I did all the immigration paperwork for K1 I put down that she did not have a kid. Because I did not know. If would have know, and accepted it, of course I would have put down the kid and would make things easier in the future.

Well after being married for about a month she has the kid brought over illegally. She had a cousin/aunt use another kids birth certificate and that how he crossed. So I did not say anything, except accept it, trying to make the marriage work.

We did have some fights about her not telling earlier about the kid. But I tried to move forward.

Next thing, her brother is moving in with us. So he has been living with us for two months, and I always complained to her when is he going to get a job. Well she told me Saturday that he is applying for the Obama executive action, and is NOT going to get a job because he can't work with someone's social security. I was mad. So I told her I wanted him gone.

So when we got home, she was mad, he comes out. And tells me from now on I talk to him only about him. He actually threatened me and told me if I upset her again that I will get hurt, etc, etc, etc. At time it was only us three. So I was smart enough to not say much and try to be cool. I figured if the cops show and dumb ### who will be going to jail.

I am planning on getting a Domestic Violence Restraining order against him, which means she will either move, or make a false accusation against me. FYI: she is out of the 90 days and I have NOT petitioned for AOS.

I already started talking to a lawyer who deals with family law.

Any advice?

[Needhelp164 11]

Correction: I meant to say, that If the cops show up. I will be the one going to jail.

[msbau764 245]

I completed the K1 process went to the foreign consulate with my k1 fiancée. She got the visa. I was very happy. Two weeks before she moved to the USA, she told me she had been raped two years ago and ended up having a kid. She suffers from a medical disorder where she loses concioussness, I have seen it. I was in a state of shock, but since I was in love and I guess not seeing straight from shock. I cried and decided to make it work. She moved to the USA and we got married in Vegas.

Keep in mind that while I did all the immigration paperwork for K1 I put down that she did not have a kid. Because I did not know. If would have know, and accepted it, of course I would have put down the kid and would make things easier in the future.

Well after being married for about a month she has the kid brought over illegally. She had a cousin/aunt use another kids birth certificate and that how he crossed. So I did not say anything, except accept it, trying to make the marriage work.

We did have some fights about her not telling earlier about the kid. But I tried to move forward.

Next thing, her brother is moving in with us. So he has been living with us for two months, and I always complained to her when is he going to get a job. Well she told me Saturday that he is applying for the Obama executive action, and is NOT going to get a job because he can't work with someone's social security. I was mad. So I told her I wanted him gone.

So when we got home, she was mad, he comes out. And tells me from now on I talk to him only about him. He actually threatened me and told me if I upset her again that I will get hurt, etc, etc, etc. At time it was only us three. So I was smart enough to not say much and try to be cool. I figured if the cops show and dumb ### who will be going to jail.

I am planning on getting a Domestic Violence Restraining order against him, which means she will either move, or make a false accusation against me. FYI: she is out of the 90 days and I have NOT petitioned for AOS.

I already started talking to a lawyer who deals with family law.

Any advice?

she sounds pretty naco. Run!

[mallafri76 1,012]

Only thing I can say is, thank your lucky star you found out before AOS. I guess you guys haven't been married all that long? Maybe you can get the marriage annulled rather than get a divorce. By getting it annulled, I guess that would also mean she didn't get married within 90 days and have to leave the country?

[Jo Së 200]

Sounds like she lied from the beginning and only told you the truth once she was sure she was moving to the US. Do consult with a lawyer and make sure to keep records of conversations etc. even if only written down.

You have no obligation to let someone live in your housr who treatens you, specially if he is not here legally. And if your wife believes otherwise than she might need to go as well. He is her family, but you are her husband and if she can't repect that than there is a problem. Do not file for AOS until you are sure that that is the way you want to go with the marriage, once you file lots of things can go wrong and she will be more protected.

[Needhelp164 11]

Sounds like she lied from the beginning and only told you the truth once she was sure she was moving to the US. Do consult with a lawyer and make sure to keep records of conversations etc. even if only written down.

You have no obligation to let someone live in your housr who treatens you, specially if he is not here legally. And if your wife believes otherwise than she might need to go as well. He is her family, but you are her husband and if she can't repect that than there is a problem. Do not file for AOS until you are sure that that is the way you want to go with the marriage, once you file lots of things can go wrong and she will be more protected.

Thanks Jose&Eli,

I HAVE NOT DONE AN AOS. If things don't go well for us she will probably self petition through WAVA.

Well if I get the courts involved against him, then she might leave. Which is something I have to accept. I tried to make it work, but one thing is being a nice guy and the other is being a fool.

I guess I am very confused now.

[Merrytooth 5,748]

Don't be fool to support a family who does not obey the laws, telling lies and behave like thugs.

They have nothing to lose anyway but you do.

[E-N 48]

report them and run! I would type a letter get it notarized stating everything including your deceit from her in not revealing about the child. get the restraining order.

i would install nanny cameras or something in the house. sounds like you have some waco's in the house with you and you don't know what they are cabable of

[Pinkrlion 2,607]

You can file for nullification of marriage based on fraud, as she falsified that she had a child. Also, you can report to ICE about brother and child. You can file motion to evict, and the police will come and remove wife, child, and brother.

[Pitaya 2,576]

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[SK2014 44]

Hi, I am going to say this in the nicest way I can, at the end of the day all we on here can do is give you advice and it's up to you to choose to take it or not.

Not wanting to talk about something as horrific as rape is understandable but if you are trusting someone enough to marry them you should be able to open yourself to them and give yourself fully and know that they will be with you and hold your hand and support you through the tuff times.

This women (your wife) has lied to you from the very start she had hidden such serious things from you. A child! Her child! She has lied by not telling you she waited until the moment she had her visa in hand before she told you.

She then involved you in her fraudulent activities by now illegally bringing her son over (which I will tell you was the plan all along) she waited until you were fully committed before she exposed and involved you in to her illegal activities and now has her illegal brother living with you obviously this was planned also

Your wife now not only has you living in fear she has a role in making sure that you stay that way by discussing the argument she has with you with her brother probably so he could shut you up

You have NO obligation to the women she obviously has little respect for you and how you feel I am sorry but you need to get out of this situation you cannot live in a marriage built on lies fear and fraudulent activities

I wish you all the luck in the world sorry for your troubles and sorry if my words are hash it's only my opinion on your post

Again good luck!

Edited February 9, 2015 by SK2014

[Elizabeth+Fred 35]

Thanks Jose&Eli,

I HAVE NOT DONE AN AOS. If things don't go well for us she will probably self petition through WAVA.

Well if I get the courts involved against him, then she might leave. Which is something I have to accept. I tried to make it work, but one thing is being a nice guy and the other is being a fool.

I guess I am very confused now.

Good. Given the situation, don't file for AOS. She CAN NOT adjust status without your help, simply

because she needs "someone" to file the I-864 (Affadavit of Support) for her. Since you hopefully

won't, she's out of luck in the end.

So, the current situation is, that, yes, she is on K-1 status, and you have married. So, she can stay

as long as there is no decision on AoS - her "overstay" is paroled for now.

You have to start collecting evidence of the fraudulent actions so far... lying regarding her child (she

ALSO signed that paperwork, so, in effect, she lied to the U.S. Consular Officer during her interview),

bring her baby into your home illegally, and bringing in her brother illegally. Once you have proof of

this, I'd simply call it in. Right now, they LOVE getting a call regarding an illegal alien, so the brother

should be out before he knows what happened.

THEN, you might consider staying elsewhere for a while, to avoid VAWA claims. Try to get the

marriaga anulled based on fraud ("she has a child which she never mentioned, and which she has

now brought in illegally") and that should be enough.

ALSO, write a letter with all these facts, and send it to USCIS, including her A# and state clearly that

you wish yo abort the K-1 process, and will NOT be filing for AOS, or sign any kind of Affadavit for

her in the future. If possible, book an appointment with your local USCIS office and hand-deliver

them a copy of that letter.

This should pretty much take care of things.

Sorry this happened, but for now, focus on 'damage control' my friend!!

[Bjorn&lyne 20]

Keeping a kid from your knowledge regardless of circumstances is a pretty big deal/lie, especially if bringing kid illegally. Since you put down on the K1 visa application she does not have a kid, I am sure the USCIS could consider that very concerning when you apply for AOS and all of a sudden she has a kid. If she is keeping a kid from your knowledge, what else is she hiding? Since you also know about the kid being brought over illegally, if the kid ends up living with you, then you are providing a home for an illegal child knowingly. All those things might add up to something the USCIS might not be too excited about, and not the Homeland Security either. You might want to consider rethinking the marriage and applying for AOS for her. However harsh it may sound, in the long rung your best scenario might be to divorce and not apply for AOS and also contact the USCIS and Homeland Security about this to ensure YOU do not run into any problems.

[Marco&Bettina 502]

Tis a very sad situation OP. I already talked this over with my wife & we both say that a situation like this makes it acceptable to end the marriage, though annulment would be better. I say this because her character is questionable because of the way she's behaving. It is not OK to illegally bring people into America, especially when there are legal means to do so. Her son could've easily come over legally had she've just told you up front. Her brother also, granted much later in time. But she obviously neglected to tell you he was here illegally. I personally couldn't stay married to someone who is acting this way. You're supposed to trust your partner. She obviously doesn't trust you, since she's omitting all this stuff. Adversely, you must ask yourself if you can trust her? I think we both know the answer.

[msbau764 245]

Tis a very sad situation OP. I already talked this over with my wife & we both say that a situation like this makes it acceptable to end the marriage, though annulment would be better. I say this because her character is questionable because of the way she's behaving. It is not OK to illegally bring people into America, especially when there are legal means to do so. Her son could've easily come over legally had she've just told you up front. Her brother also, granted much later in time. But she obviously neglected to tell you he was here illegally. I personally couldn't stay married to someone who is acting this way. You're supposed to trust your partner. She obviously doesn't trust you, since she's omitting all this stuff. Adversely, you must ask yourself if you can trust her? I think we both know the answer.

the next person that will come out of the woodwork would be her "secret" lover/husband.