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Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Argentina
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I'm the US Citizen, I've been married previously and my previous marriage was very abusive, and a nightmare; Lifetime Channel movie worthy. I got out, but there are some scars I'm still working on healing, which may take a lifetime, if they ever heal.

Its just a few days until I marry my fiance, and I'm getting cold feet.

I just have so many concerns flying through my head. With my ex husband, I never cared... I wanted nothing to do with the wedding planning, I wasn't nervous, I wasn't excited, I was just numb. That's probably a bad sign in and of itself.

Now... I am most definitely not numb. I'm terrified of making the same mistakes, even though my current fiance has been nothing but gentle and sweet to me. He's great with my children as well, and our day-to-day interactions are surreal. I've never been this happy! My children adore him, my friends and neighbors think he's the biggest sweetheart (and he is).

But I still wonder... Am I right for him? Is he right for me? Is this right for the kids? Will he change after we marry? Is he using me to get to a Green Card?

We've been together over 2 1/2 years. I've gone to visit him and his family several times, he's always been a complete gentleman, treated me with nothing but love, respect, tenderness. He's here now and its the same. He holds open doors, doesn't let me carry anything heavy, in general treats me like a goddess. He's great with my children (12 and 11 respectively), and they absolutely adore him. He builds forts with them in the backyard, plays with them, when he has to discipline them, he has talks with them that seem to get through better than I could imagine. They listen well, respect him, and just love him already.

Anyone else get pre-wedding jitters?

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Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Argentina
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I totally meant to post this in "Moving to the US and Your New Life In America"

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I totally meant to post this in "Moving to the US and Your New Life In America"

**Moved**

Our journey:

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September 2007: Met online via social networking site (MySpace); began exchanging messages.
March 26, 2009: We become a couple!
September 10, 2009: Arrived for first meeting in-person!
June 17, 2010: Arrived for second in-person meeting and start of travel together to other areas of China!
June 21, 2010: Engaged!!!
September 1, 2010: Switched course from K1 to CR-1
December 8, 2010: Wedding date set; it will be on February 18, 2011!
February 9, 2011: Depart for China
February 11, 2011: Registered for marriage in Wuhan, officially married!!!
February 18, 2011: Wedding ceremony in Shiyan!!!
April 22, 2011: Mailed I-130 to Chicago
April 28, 2011: Received NOA1 via text/email, file routed to CSC (priority date April 25th)
April 29, 2011: Updated
May 3, 2011: Received NOA1 hardcopy in mail
July 26, 2011: Received NOA2 via text/email!!!
July 30, 2011: Received NOA2 hardcopy in mail
August 8, 2011: NVC received file
September 1, 2011: NVC case number assigned
September 2, 2011: AOS invoice received, OPTIN email for EP sent
September 7, 2011: Paid AOS bill (payment portal showed PAID on September 9, 2011)
September 8, 2011: OPTIN email accepted, GZO number assigned
September 10, 2011: Emailed AOS package
September 12, 2011: IV bill invoiced
September 13, 2011: Paid IV bill (payment portal showed PAID on September 14, 2011)
September 14, 2011: Emailed IV package
October 3, 2011: Emailed checklist response (checklist generated due to typo on Form DS-230)
October 6, 2011: Case complete at NVC
November 10, 2011: Interview - APPROVED!!!
December 7, 2011: POE - Sea-Tac Airport

September 17, 2013: Mailed I-751 to CSC

September 23, 2013: Received NOA1 in mail (receipt date September 19th)

October 16, 2013: Biometrics Appointment

January 28, 2014: Production of new Green Card ordered

February 3, 2014: New Green Card received; done with USCIS until fall of 2023*

December 18, 2023:  Filed I-90 to renew Green Card

December 21, 2023:  Production of new Green Card ordered - will be seeing USCIS again every 10 years for renewal

 

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I think we all do in our own ways. For me the biggest thing i have had to overcome is leaving my son who is just starting school to be with my fiance. She means the world to me but i still have fears am i doing the right thing. My fiance is much like you in the fact she has heard that men change a lot as soon as we are married and she has horror stories from her friends which i guess have made her worry. To me marriage doesnt need to change the dynamic of your relationship it just means you have found the one person in this world you believe can be there through both the good and the bad, someone who makes you see life in a different way.

It sounds like you have found the right person for you but your past is clouding your judgement im sure in a few years you will look back and think what was i worried about.

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I think we all do in our own ways. For me the biggest thing i have had to overcome is leaving my son who is just starting school to be with my fiance. She means the world to me but i still have fears am i doing the right thing. My fiance is much like you in the fact she has heard that men change a lot as soon as we are married and she has horror stories from her friends which i guess have made her worry. To me marriage doesnt need to change the dynamic of your relationship it just means you have found the one person in this world you believe can be there through both the good and the bad, someone who makes you see life in a different way.

It sounds like you have found the right person for you but your past is clouding your judgement im sure in a few years you will look back and think what was i worried about.

I am confident I am, and I know it's my past getting ahead of me. :P It's just helpful to hear that others have had the jitters to and that my reaction it normal. Some days I am great and all is well, other days I'm a wreck.

Mine is less that I "heard" men change, so much as I experienced it. I was very young though and so was my ex at the time. Neither of us were ready nor right for each other. We brought out the worst in the other.

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When you are in a better relationship than your first it can feel liberating. Now that you are aware of the kind of relationship that you want to be in, have that one and enjoy it. Give yourself a break :) Trust your partner but learn to put your foot down without being afraid and know that eventhough some of the happiest couples argue, there never has to be abuse. Agree to disagree on things and yes it is totally normal what you are feeling right now. Remember that if you and your new husband maybe argue about something similar that you did with your ex (for example housework) keep in mind your new guy is not the monster that your old guy was, so dont let your past torment your future. To me the most important is for you and your future husband is to set an example for your children that what you went through before is not acceptable and is not the "norm". When your children see you as a happy couple that is always able to talk things out without verbal or physical abuse, it gives them the security they need and makes you just shine. I wish you and your family a lifetime of happiness.




 


 

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It was liberating, and often still is. But part of me is waiting for the other shoe to drop so to speak. A few other men and women whom I know were in previously abusive relationships have said they often feel the same.

I do my very best every day to remind myself that he is not my ex, and will never be. Sometimes I react versus respond, but I do okay for the most part in not jumping at shadows.

Our arguments are nothing like what they were with my ex they're handled very differently, so I never had to worry about that aspect. I'm lucky on that one.

I have learned to put my foot down when it matters to me, honestly I did with my ex as well, but he wanted none of it which is partially what caused so much strife. My ex wanted a wife who would do whatever he wanted, without question and without an argument. As a fiery little american-born Irish woman (My father's from Belfast), I was the wrong woman to pick for a bidding wife. :lol:

My fiance is full of just as much fire as I am (that hot latino blood), and he most definitely doesn't expect me to listen! We argue occasionally and it gets heated at times, but for the most part our day-to-day life has little fighting in it, as we agree on all the major things, and the minor things we can just agree to disagree.

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I'm the US Citizen, I've been married previously and my previous marriage was very abusive, and a nightmare; Lifetime Channel movie worthy. I got out, but there are some scars I'm still working on healing, which may take a lifetime, if they ever heal.

Its just a few days until I marry my fiance, and I'm getting cold feet.

I just have so many concerns flying through my head. With my ex husband, I never cared... I wanted nothing to do with the wedding planning, I wasn't nervous, I wasn't excited, I was just numb. That's probably a bad sign in and of itself.

Now... I am most definitely not numb. I'm terrified of making the same mistakes, even though my current fiance has been nothing but gentle and sweet to me. He's great with my children as well, and our day-to-day interactions are surreal. I've never been this happy! My children adore him, my friends and neighbors think he's the biggest sweetheart (and he is).

But I still wonder... Am I right for him? Is he right for me? Is this right for the kids? Will he change after we marry? Is he using me to get to a Green Card?

We've been together over 2 1/2 years. I've gone to visit him and his family several times, he's always been a complete gentleman, treated me with nothing but love, respect, tenderness. He's here now and its the same. He holds open doors, doesn't let me carry anything heavy, in general treats me like a goddess. He's great with my children (12 and 11 respectively), and they absolutely adore him. He builds forts with them in the backyard, plays with them, when he has to discipline them, he has talks with them that seem to get through better than I could imagine. They listen well, respect him, and just love him already.

Anyone else get pre-wedding jitters?

OP,

Well-written and thoughtful post...I enjoyed reading it.

Isn't it true that actions speak louder than words, especially after being together for 2-1/2 years?

Considering the past you've spoken about, it's great that your circumstances have changed and you were able to embrace a healthier relationship.

People change. Men change, women also...matters not which.

Congratulations! Move forward and trust your head, (your intuition) and not so much your heart.

Regards.

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OP,

Well-written and thoughtful post...I enjoyed reading it.

Isn't it true that actions speak louder than words, especially after being together for 2-1/2 years?

Considering the past you've spoken about, it's great that your circumstances have changed and you were able to embrace a healthier relationship.

People change. Men change, women also...matters not which.

Congratulations! Move forward and trust your head, (your intuition) and not so much your heart.

Regards.

Thank you for the congrats!

Actions most definitely do speak louder than words, and yes I trust that he is right for me. I know this is just the jitters, but even knowing that doesn't make them any easier! I go from nervous, to terrified, to excited and back again. LOL

People are constantly changing and evolving, I know loving him, isn't just about loving him for who he is now, but loving him unconditionally as he changes and grows - and he knows its the same for loving me.

I'm not gonna abandon at the alter, but hearing people's stories sometimes help. :)

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[2014-09-22] Applied for SSN
[2014-09-26] Marriage License in Snail Mail
[2014-10-22] Notification of SSC in mail, will arrive "within 2 weeks"
[2014-10-27] SSC Arrived!

2015-04-30] Mailed AOS Package!
[2015-06-16] EAD Approved!
[2015-06-16] AP Approved!
[2015-06-23] EAD/AP Card Received!

[2015-10-02] AOS Approved (No Interview)!

[2015-10-07] Greencard Mailed

[2015-10-09] Approval Notice Recieved

[2015-10-09] Greencard Recieved!

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Trust your gut instincts.

When you get little red flags that need to be explained away, you end up looking back at them as signs you didn't heed. If they were late to meet you on the first date it wasn't because work got in the way, the subway was behind schedule, etc. They are a person who is going to be late.

I had world record bad with a spouse. Clinical. In the end I have to admit that despite her concealing this odious sickness from me, I made my choices. I excused behavior I should not have excused. You mentioned standing your ground more now, sure. A lot of this is about having boundaries and making sure people respect them or else you have to leave them.

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Trust your gut instincts.

When you get little red flags that need to be explained away, you end up looking back at them as signs you didn't heed. If they were late to meet you on the first date it wasn't because work got in the way, the subway was behind schedule, etc. They are a person who is going to be late.

I had world record bad with a spouse. Clinical. In the end I have to admit that despite her concealing this odious sickness from me, I made my choices. I excused behavior I should not have excused. You mentioned standing your ground more now, sure. A lot of this is about having boundaries and making sure people respect them or else you have to leave them.

I don't have any "red flags" or "warning bells" with him. I tend to just get a sense of unease in general, and most of that is towards marriage itself, as I get those when I think of marrying anyone not just him. :P

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[2014-09-22] Applied for SSN
[2014-09-26] Marriage License in Snail Mail
[2014-10-22] Notification of SSC in mail, will arrive "within 2 weeks"
[2014-10-27] SSC Arrived!

2015-04-30] Mailed AOS Package!
[2015-06-16] EAD Approved!
[2015-06-16] AP Approved!
[2015-06-23] EAD/AP Card Received!

[2015-10-02] AOS Approved (No Interview)!

[2015-10-07] Greencard Mailed

[2015-10-09] Approval Notice Recieved

[2015-10-09] Greencard Recieved!

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It is so easy to give others advice... I agree wholeheartedly about trusting your instincts and you have to know yourself well enough to understand what is normal nerves vs. something more serious. In the end, you will know best if this is the right thing to do and it kind of sounds like you not only know that it is, but you know now from experience that things change, people change... you can't control that. All you can do is make the best decisions based on what you know now.

I am getting cold feet over silly things on a weekly basis now... I know most are not rational... but It is so scary to move to a new country, give up your job, friends and family all for someone that lives far from you... I have had a couple serious relationships and they have broken down once we lived together... and not being able to "test the waters" is so scary to me!

I keep trying to tell myself, that I love my fiance, I know that we perfect for each and will be happy.... but I also keep thinking, what if things change!!??

Really in the end, I would rather try and find out it didn't work then to be too scared to take the chance at happiness with another person.

You (and really everyone on here) are so brave to go into something like this. It is so scary...

I think the other thing for me that causes so much jitters is that we have all this time to sit around and wait.... We made the decision to get married... then we had to wait for the petition, the interview, the visa, the travel and moving..... That is a lot of time to sit around contemplating and over thinking the decision.

My latest freak outs have been over the most ridiculous things... Giving up my household goods (e.g. dishes and towels??) all of a sudden random things are becoming very dear to me... and getting rid of my plants... seriously.. this is what I last freaked out over... Thank god for a very understanding fiance that can make me see that it will be ok.. and not just call me crazy!

Oh - OP thank you for starting this thread! I thought of starting one myself, then tried to search and found very little... and it kind of made me wonder, am I the only one feeling this way?

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04/21/2014: Submitted I-129F

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01/20/2015: Visa Received

03/15/2015: POE

04/01/2015: Married!! (L)

04/11/2015: Submitted AOS / EAD / AP

10/09/2015: Green Card Approved

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07/27/2017: NOA1 Received

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Congrats on your wedding OP, you've made it so far! I wish you good luck :star:

My latest freak outs have been over the most ridiculous things... Giving up my household goods (e.g. dishes and towels??) all of a sudden random things are becoming very dear to me... and getting rid of my plants... seriously.. this is what I last freaked out over... Thank god for a very understanding fiance that can make me see that it will be ok.. and not just call me crazy!

LOL

I'm the petitioner but while we were waiting for our 221G to be satisfied my fiance and I were doing these "what if" scenarios, and one of the scenarios was me moving to Canada if the visa got denied. All I could think about was all of my nice stuff! My towels, my silverware, my furniture, all of it is essentially brand new (I moved out of my mom's home about a year ago) and one of the conditions for me to move to Canada was to get rid of his crappy stuff and replace it with mine. That was non negotiable.

I felt kind of awful for thinking that way and not considering his feelings but at the same time he'd be getting all these good upgrades!He only has like 2 plates, he uses these ratty bath towels that are all different colors, he doesn't even have a proper cutting knife! He has no couch, he's got a mattress on the floor, and he's got a folding table for a dinner table. He's not a bum or anything he's just really frugal with household stuff, and he always says "guys don't really care about these things". No, no no no, no. No. Our visa was approved and issued, so no worries there :rofl:

My one freak out is...this is my last week alone!

I'm going to pick him up this coming Friday and we're returning on Sunday. I'm gonna have someone in my space for more than a month at a time, I'm gonna have someone in my space all the time! I keep a very neat home and I'm afraid it won't stay that way all the time. On the other hand, I'll have someone to come home to when I'm sad or happy, I'll have someone to cook for, I'll have someone to be busy with or be lazy with, I won't feel so alone anymore! I've waited nine years for this and it's actually happening now, for reals. I'm happy and I'm terrified, but 99% happy.

K-1

I-129F NOA1 => NOA2: 161 days

NOA2 => Interview: 64 days

AP: 33 days

Total: 258 days

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08/01/2017: NOA

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Congrats on your wedding OP, you've made it so far! I wish you good luck :star:

LOL

I'm the petitioner but while we were waiting for our 221G to be satisfied my fiance and I were doing these "what if" scenarios, and one of the scenarios was me moving to Canada if the visa got denied. All I could think about was all of my nice stuff! My towels, my silverware, my furniture, all of it is essentially brand new (I moved out of my mom's home about a year ago) and one of the conditions for me to move to Canada was to get rid of his crappy stuff and replace it with mine. That was non negotiable.

I felt kind of awful for thinking that way and not considering his feelings but at the same time he'd be getting all these good upgrades!He only has like 2 plates, he uses these ratty bath towels that are all different colors, he doesn't even have a proper cutting knife! He has no couch, he's got a mattress on the floor, and he's got a folding table for a dinner table. He's not a bum or anything he's just really frugal with household stuff, and he always says "guys don't really care about these things". No, no no no, no. No. Our visa was approved and issued, so no worries there :rofl:

My one freak out is...this is my last week alone!

I'm going to pick him up this coming Friday and we're returning on Sunday. I'm gonna have someone in my space for more than a month at a time, I'm gonna have someone in my space all the time! I keep a very neat home and I'm afraid it won't stay that way all the time. On the other hand, I'll have someone to come home to when I'm sad or happy, I'll have someone to cook for, I'll have someone to be busy with or be lazy with, I won't feel so alone anymore! I've waited nine years for this and it's actually happening now, for reals. I'm happy and I'm terrified, but 99% happy.

LOL, I love your conditions... we kind of talked about the same thing. He said anything I own that is nicer than his, I should bring with me... He even said he would be willing to store some of his stuff for me. I think he is trying really hard to be understanding... it is difficult for him to get what I am feeling!

I am freaked out about moving in with someone too! I have lived alone for 7 years... and the last time I lived with someone it was not a great experience! I think we will be great in the end, but oh yes, an adjustment! It will be so strange to have someone around every day. I think he is going to love it. I am going to struggle, but I know I will adjust... Either than or I will get a woman cave for some alone time ;)

I am visiting next weekend and it will be my last visit before moving and my first visit to the apartment that I will be living in...scary and exciting!

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04/21/2014: Submitted I-129F

05/29/2014: NOA2 via email

01/20/2015: Visa Received

03/15/2015: POE

04/01/2015: Married!! (L)

04/11/2015: Submitted AOS / EAD / AP

10/09/2015: Green Card Approved

07/20/2017: Submitted I-751 ROC

07/27/2017: NOA1 Received

10/14/2017: Biometrics Waived

10/27/2018: ROC Approved

 

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Ahhh I just saw this! Sorry!

We got married and aside from a couple spats, we still get along famously and are deliriously happy! Lord I had the jitters, and so did he! Both of us were adorably nervous and excited and terrified all in one!

I'm the USC so I didn't have to give anything up, persay... but I've been on my own for years, so there's a lot to adjust to for me too! I keep thinking about all things I have to buy for him, and he's like "WOMAN, I HAVE CLOTHES, FOOD, A BED AND YOU... STOP!" :lol:

Even after the wedding, I'm still trying to get him things he'll need. He went from Buenos Aires Argentina which has mild weather much like Georgia... to... Hoth... aka New England.

I'd much rather try and fail than always wonder what if! I don't have any red flags, or anything like that. He's always be a gentleman and a nothing but sweet to me. I just have had a thing against marriage since my divorce, I look forward to my husband changing that opinion for the rest of our lives. :)

You can bring some things with you, you know? Mail them! The towels are always useful... The plants can get mailed or driven down with you. Get rid of what you don't need, and bring what you can. You can always rent a storage unit and sell them off after you guys settle in together!

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K1 Visa Journey [April 11, 2013 - August 31, 2014]
[2014-09-20] !!! WEDDING !!!
[2014-09-22] Applied for SSN
[2014-09-26] Marriage License in Snail Mail
[2014-10-22] Notification of SSC in mail, will arrive "within 2 weeks"
[2014-10-27] SSC Arrived!

2015-04-30] Mailed AOS Package!
[2015-06-16] EAD Approved!
[2015-06-16] AP Approved!
[2015-06-23] EAD/AP Card Received!

[2015-10-02] AOS Approved (No Interview)!

[2015-10-07] Greencard Mailed

[2015-10-09] Approval Notice Recieved

[2015-10-09] Greencard Recieved!

I used RapidVisa for my petition; a paperwork service. A K1 is $375.00 to use their hassle-free online application system.

Useful Links:
Igor's List | Advanced Search Tool | Q&A With a Former USCIS Adjudicator
Visa Status Checker (Once you get a Case # from NVC) | Offical USCIS Reasons for a K1 Denial

The advice offered by this user is not legal advice. You should contact an attorney to obtain legal advice.

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