visit boyfriend on vwp/ esta ?

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Hi everyone i wanted to visit my boyfriend in november, but i'm worried last time i was in the us which was in october to november (1 month) i had issues at poe. i went to visit family not him, i was sent to secondary screening and i was asked questions for about 3 h on why i was planning to stay 3 months, my trip got shorted to 1 month and they let me in. They gave me a date to leave the us and i left in time.However this time i want to visit him, i will be giving them his address and i will only stay for 3 weeks

Any of you that has visited boyfriends / girlfriends in the usa and been denied because of this? or someone that visited their boyfriend / girlfriend without any problems?, i'm really worried because of last time. I also wonder if it counts as over using vwp im planning on going in november that means a year past by since i was there last time ? did cbp give a hard time for wanting to visit boyfriend/ girlfriend???

thank you in advance

and im sorry for my english

Edited February 21, 2014 by zoom_

[li_09 40]

I'm not sure. I think you would have to take strong ties to your country to show you will return.

I was hassled as well and I'm also from a visa waiver country. There was no current visa petition for me such as k1 or I-130 yet they still grilled the heck outta me lol

My advice is take strong ties to prove you will return.

[HollyGolightly 72]

You can bring documents that will prove you will leave in 3 weeks, like an approved leave of absence from work and a return ticket. It really depends on the POE. There are those that typically hassle people that reveal their reason for visit is to visit a boyfriend/girlfriend (like Detroit). Look at the reviews for POEs so you can assess the harassment level at your planned POE. Good luck!

[HollyGolightly 72]

POE reviews- enjoy!

http://www.visajourney.com/reviews/poereviews.php?poe=JFK

[Ryan H 3,790]

Moved from K1 Process & Procedures to Tourist Visas forum.

[RhettVoe 281]

visiting after about a year should not raise any red flags...just make sure you don't bring 6 suitcases for your three week trip, or else the border folks will wonder about why you need so much stuff for so short of a trip. Also on the plus side is the fact that you did indeed (according to what you posted) leave when you were supposed to....so it sounds doubtful that you will be 'grilled' but not impossible.

[Avery Cates 1,141]

Hi everyone i wanted to visit my boyfriend in november, but i'm worried last time i was in the us which was in october to november (1 month) i had issues at poe. i went to visit family not him, i was sent to secondary screening and i was asked questions for about 3 h on why i was planning to stay 3 months, my trip got shorted to 1 month and they let me in. They gave me a date to leave the us and i left in time.However this time i want to visit him, i will be giving them his address and i will only stay for 3 weeks

Any of you that has visited boyfriends / girlfriends in the usa and been denied because of this? or someone that visited their boyfriend / girlfriend without any problems?, i'm really worried because of last time. I also wonder if it counts as over using vwp im planning on going in november that means a year past by since i was there last time ? did cbp give a hard time for wanting to visit boyfriend/ girlfriend???

thank you in advance

and im sorry for my english

Unfortunately all we can really do is speculate, it's 100% up to the discretion of the border office whether you will be admitted to the country or not. Previous records of you coming and leaving timely should help. Do I read right that you're not going to be coming back until November, 9 months from now? If so, I don't see you having much in the way of issues.

My fiancee came here half a dozen times or so over the few years we were together previous to her moving here permanently, but the only time she was hassled at the border was during her first ever visit.

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You can bring documents that will prove you will leave in 3 weeks, like an approved leave of absence from work and a return ticket. It really depends on the POE. There are those that typically hassle people that reveal their reason for visit is to visit a boyfriend/girlfriend (like Detroit). Look at the reviews for POEs so you can assess the harassment level at your planned POE. Good luck!

right now i'm studying and working i guess by november i be just working. Now a letter from the empleador how should it look like?i mean i live in sweden the letter will be in swedish? or do i make the empleador translate it? any other ties i can use? i i live with my friend the apartment is on her name i help her pay half but ny name is not in the contract, thanx for the reviews i will take a look at them

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any idees on what i can use as ties?my friend offered me to stay at hers but i said i was gonna stay at my boyfriends, is it better if i stay at hers? i mean is it less hassles at poe? thank for all the answers

[RhettVoe 281]

be careful trying to be too 'clever' with stories about random friends you will be visiting....since you were questioned at length the last time, those notes are likely in the 'system', available for comparison should you start telling new tales about who you plan to visit, where you plan to stay....you can easily trip yourself up trying to evade the true answers...and then you will likely (a) be sent home and (b) lose your VWP privileges....

[HollyGolightly 72]

right now i'm studying and working i guess by november i be just working. Now a letter from the empleador how should it look like?i mean i live in sweden the letter will be in swedish? or do i make the empleador translate it? any other ties i can use? i i live with my friend the apartment is on her name i help her pay half but ny name is not in the contract, thanx for the reviews i will take a look at them

I visited my husband for years before I moved here too. In my experience, an approved leave of absence issued by my office stating the dates I am allowed to take off from work was enough to satisfy the IOs at POE. I do not think it has to be in some format as long as the dates covering your leaves of absence from your work are apparent on the document. I also always carried my return ticket/itinerary to show when I will be leaving, ready and on hand for the inspection of the IO.

[Mikenmalin 1]

Hej

Jag har varit med om det 1 gång av de 5 resor jag åkt inom loppet av ett år. Jätte läskigt och man blir super nervös. Det de frågade mig om var retur biljetten, hade glömt att printa ut den! Och hur mycket pengar jag hade på mitt konto, anknytningar till Sverige och massor frågor om min pojkvän. Den gången hade jag inga bevis med mig så efter det tar jag alltid med mig bankutdrag, anställnings avtal, hyresavtal och deklarationen.. Har ju aldrig blivit frågad efter det men bara om i fall att. Vad du än gör så ljug inte. Var helt ärlig och försök bevara lugnet. Svara endast på deras frågor och inte prata på. Dom gillar inte riktigt att man ska hälsa på sin pojkvän men var ärlig! Tyvärr är det ju så att dom har all makt, man får försöka tänka vilket ansvar dom har och att dom bara gör sitt jobb. Känns som varje gång jag åker är en chansning men bara att göra det. Det kommer säkert gå bra:)

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[Ryan H 3,790]

Hej

Jag har varit med om det 1 gång av de 5 resor jag åkt inom loppet av ett år. Jätte läskigt och man blir super nervös. Det de frågade mig om var retur biljetten, hade glömt att printa ut den! Och hur mycket pengar jag hade på mitt konto, anknytningar till Sverige och massor frågor om min pojkvän. Den gången hade jag inga bevis med mig så efter det tar jag alltid med mig bankutdrag, anställnings avtal, hyresavtal och deklarationen.. Har ju aldrig blivit frågad efter det men bara om i fall att. Vad du än gör så ljug inte. Var helt ärlig och försök bevara lugnet. Svara endast på deras frågor och inte prata på. Dom gillar inte riktigt att man ska hälsa på sin pojkvän men var ärlig! Tyvärr är det ju så att dom har all makt, man får försöka tänka vilket ansvar dom har och att dom bara gör sitt jobb. Känns som varje gång jag åker är en chansning men bara att göra det. Det kommer säkert gå bra:)

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Hi

I've been through this one time of the 5 trips I have gone in the space of one year. Really scary and it gets super nervous. There they asked me for was a return ticket, had forgotten to print it out! And how much money I had in my account, connections to Sweden and a lot questions about my boyfriend. That time, I had no proof with me so after that I always take with me bank statements, employment contracts, leases and return .. Have never been asked for it but only if in case. Whatever you do, so do not lie. Be completely honest and try to steer clear. Reply only to their questions and do not talk to. They do not really like that you should visit her boyfriend but was honest! Unfortunately it is a fact that they have all the power, you have to try to think what responsibility they have and they're just doing their job. Feels like every time I go is a gamble but just to do it. It will surely go well

Good luck

[renatesol 13]

Those of you traveling from non-English speaking countries - do you get all documentation translated? I'm planning on visiting my boyfriend for ~3 months this fall, and I've arranged for 3 months off work for this. I'll have a confirmation letter from my employer stating that I am on leave of absence and must be back at work at a certain date, and this I can get in English. However, my apartment lease is - obviously - in Norwegian. Should I bring both a copy of the lease in Norwegian and a translation (done by myself)?

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be careful trying to be too 'clever' with stories about random friends you will be visiting....since you were questioned at length the last time, those notes are likely in the 'system', available for comparison should you start telling new tales about who you plan to visit, where you plan to stay....you can easily trip yourself up trying to evade the true answers...and then you will likely (a) be sent home and (b) lose your VWP privileges....

i was just wondering which was best to do, last time i went i visited my family now my boyfriend they live in differents state do you mean this would give me problems?

Edited February 23, 2014 by zoom_